“Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load.” – Galatians 6:4-5
Humans have an uncanny ability. Somehow, we try to control too much and, at the same time, avoid taking responsibility for what we can control. We blame others when our responsibilities aren’t met while we try desperately to adopt the responsibilities of others.
Innately, we recognize there is some balance to be found. There are things out of our control and things within. An improper treatment of the balance leads to victim mentality and codependency. But a healthy understanding allows us to make our choices with confidence and let go of the things that do not belong to us.
We can only control three things in this world. Our attitude/perspective, our choices, and whom we trust. That’s it. Three things for just one person out of the billions on this planet.
By naming these three things and focusing our attention, we free ourselves from wasting so much time trying to manipulate all of the factors, people, and circumstances that will stubbornly refuse our efforts to control them.
In the same vein, taking ownership of these three things will feed the longing inside of us to participate and take meaningful action. It’s not that we should do nothing. There is danger on that side of the spectrum too. We should do what we are meant to do. Nothing less and nothing more.